"Yes, I used to compare myself to others a lot. Most the girls in my class are a lot skinnier than me. Then I realized that I wasn't fat or skinny, I was just the right size for myself..."
--Theresa, 12
"Sometimes I do compare my self to others because their parents are home all day and mine work all day and since they can have a lot more play dates then I can."
--Ryann, 8
"I know it's easy to compare yourself to others around you, but instead of looking at the negative things about yourself, look at the positive. Look at the positive because trust me, if you acknowledge the positive things about you, everyone around you will, too. Hope I helped!"
--Laura, 13
"Yes, all the time. I then get frustrated and angry and hate myself for not being better. I always find that someone else is better than me at everything I ever do. I get really angry and take it out on everyone. I also compare looks, I am not at all skinny and I am UGLY! Yet my friends are all skinny and really pretty and then there is me..."
--Denise, 13
"Believe me you don't want your period I've had it and it's a pain in the rear end!"
--Anonymous, 11
"Okay when there are people I know are prettier than me I HAVE to compare myself with them just to make me feel better about myself. But I always try to forget it, and know that there are some things that are also good about me, and I should acknowledge that."
--Jenny, 13
"Yes. Especially my sister. She seems perfect."
--Andrea, 13
"Um. Not really sometimes I do but only to people who are really popular and mean I guess."
--Holly, 12
"All the time I cant stop it kinda stinks sometimes because I feel really bad about myself then but I'm getting over it."
--Adele, 12
"Actually, I have a lot! But after I do I tell myself we're happy the way we are! <3."
--Heather, 10
"Yes, all the time. I think it comes naturally to people, especially us kids. We really can't help it. The media, for instance, is constantly giving us images we compare ourselves to. We think, am I as thin as her? Am I as handsome as him? We compare ourselves to those around us as well. This is NOT a good thing to do. We need to learn to be happy with our SELVES, no matter what."
--Awesomepossum
"Ya I do, duh!"
--Anonymous
"Yes, I sometimes compare my body to the bodies of movie stars on T. V. I know it's wrong, but I can't help it."
--Molly, 12
"Alisha, 13- gurl you rock!"
--Danx, 11
"Nope, well...I think like, "Wow I want her shirt"...But like, hair color or physical features...Not really. Sometimes I'm just thinking: gawsh, I want that hair color too...But hey, I'm who I am...Sometimes it's awesome being me, but then again...It isn't."
--Samantha, 13
"I do way to much. I try not to but I always seem to not be good enough, even though I know there is a lot of good stuff about me. If comparing yourself to other folks ever gets you down, talk to one of your grandparents or other relatives because they will make you feel much better..."
--Grace, 12
"Yes I always do."
--Anonymous
"YES! And it makes my life miserable!"
--Anastacia, 12
"Dear Ramya, 10: I love reading too! Nothing's wrong with it. And you don't have to be popular to have friends. Make some friends. Say hi to someone you want to get to know better. Lighten up a little. Get to know people. Just say hi. Hope it helps! Sakura."
--Sakura, 11
"Jessica, 12- well, you shouldn't be scared because you know that your parents love you and you can talk to them about everything...I bet they have an answer. :)."
--Danx, 11
"Jessica, 12 what you need to do is start to eat less and start to get outside more like get someone to start to walk with you everyday and about every 3 weeks start to get faster on your walks or you could go on a bike ride my mom just lost 55 pounds and she did just that stuff like eating a lot less food and NEVER taking more."
--Abby
"I don't think that you should be mad at the way you are everybody is good in their own way and some people don't have that special gift some people have and if you have a gift use it like I have a gift for singing guess what I use that gift just because you wanna look different you're beautiful! From me to you! And it is good to be yourself because you know stuff other people don't know and you have a lot of very good friends other people don't have so be happy with your self. :)."
--Danx, 10
"Sometimes I feel like the odd one out. I've always been this nerd kid who just happens to LOVE (And I mean adore) reading. I'm not too social or popular either. Don't get me wrong, I'm not mean or anything I just have a little trouble opening up to people."
--Ramya, 10
"Yep."
--Kelseighh. X, 13
"My wait limit is just about 200 ponds what should I do? Could you help me? I am afraid to talk to my parents about it they'd probably wouldn't care please help."
--Jessica, 12
"No. Actually, I haven't. I'm really confident in myself and I like myself just the way I am."
--Alisha, 13
"I had a girl in my class last year she was picking up the same thing I was picking up it was funny."
--Anonymous
"Sometimes I compare myself to "Better" girls. I think I'm overweight, WAY too short, and I'm more developed than the other girls, and I feel like I'm the opposite of what I'd like to be: tall and skinny instead of short and fat! I don't HATE me, but I don't love me either!"
--Tara, 11
"One of these girls I knew in school acted like she was all that ALL of the time. I felt like I wasn't "Popular". My mom told me she was just jealous of me and turns out, she was right! She backed off once she realized I knew what she was doing, and now that it's summer, I can relax."
--Tara, 11
"I always have and always will be popular."
--Aleya, 13
"Yes! I catch myself comparing myself to other skinnier, shorter, generally prettier girls in school. I'm like 128 lbs. And 5 feet 3 and a half inches tall. I'm also more developed in puberty ( 36B CUP) and my body looks terrible!"
--TheFabFour, 12
"Hey ppls I think u shouldn't compare urself to others becuz everyone is different in their own way. U are u and no one else. Wo I think u shouldn't compare urself to others. I mean I did it before (I still kinda do but rarely) and I have no idea if girls compare themselves with me or not so I cant say. But I just want to remind you all that u are who u are and don't waste ur time comparing urself becuz u never know that girls and boys there is maybe a person that likes u for who u are."
--HAPPY: D, 12
"Yah...To my friends a lot because I'm 5'6" and weigh 120 and all my other friends are short and skinny except one is short and a little overweight (I think she's 4'3" and some where around 130-40) and another friend is 5'7" and she's like me so that's good =D."
--Brittangy, 12
"Sometimes I want to be popular like my brother. Other than that I'm fine who I am =]."
--Beverley, 13
"I compare myself to my 11 year old sister and I hate it. I am always thinking about what I was doing and what I was like when I was her age. I am trying to stop and be happy but it is really hard."
--Betsy, 13
"I don't care what others think of me because I'm comfortable in my own skin, but my friends often compare me to themselves. It gets a little awkward."
--Keana, 13
"I have to compare myself to people I am 159 pounds and I am like 4. 96 ft and I have bad hair it's hard comparing myself to someone I need help to figure out how I can compare myself to this boy named Dylan."
--Big mama, 10
"I have a friend we like and don't like the same things."
--Radesha, 11
"Yes I compare myself to others and I try to fit in."
--Miranda, 9
"I always do. I want to be just like all of my friends. All my fans always look up to me and I have to impress them so hopefully I am doing good at that! Luv ya'll."
--Miley
"My friend compares herself to me and my friends sometimes when we talk on the phone."
--Anonymous
"Have you ever felt a little uneasy, and you think you're different just because of your feelings?"
--Rachel, 12
"I do all the time, I think low of myself, except when the nice and cool people try to not be mean and be nice. I know I am ugly and clumsy, but respecting my ways and not thinking of what of others think of me sorta helps me live through my hard and treacherous life. I am weird in almost every way, but if I see myself to people lower than myself, I can see the good inside of me."
--John, 13
"Yes! I think I'm jealous of her! NEED HELP!"
--Savannah, 9
"Yeah, I compare myself to my best friend. She has lovely blond hair and sparkly blue eyes and I am African American with black hair and brown eyes. She also compares herself to me sometimes!"
--Alicia, 12
"I don't anymore. I used to but I don't now, because I joined sports, got in shape, made a ton of friends, tried harder in school, and I am totally nicer now. It really affected me. But the thing that has changed most is how I look at myself."
--Maria, 11
"No way! You shouldn't compare yourself to anybody! And Kristina (11) I hate it when people call themselves ugly. You should love yourself the way you are. So who cares if they are real "Model material" if they're those mean popular peeps then they're just really insecure! Comparing yourself to others makes YOU insecure, and that's the very last thing you want! Sometimes if you get too insecure it could change your whole life and personality. Nobody is picture perfect, no matter how model like they seem!"
--Kelsey, 11
"Well yes I do because I like to hang around others."
--Nicole, 12
"My mother compares me to 5 year olds. That stuff makes me mad. I'm14 and I'm going to do whatever feel. I tell her I'm not 5 anymore. She says that Ôcause I don't clean my room and I disobey her..."
--Anonymous
"Yes I do a little with my friends never with family."
--Anonymous
"I think everyone does, about like superficial things like someone's clothes being better than yours or their nose being smaller...But what I've realized in my experiences is that the prettier people who everyone admires, are horrible people in personality. So you have to think "Do I really wanna be like her?"...I've just given up of comparing myself to others because I'd rather be me than someone else."
--Maura
"Yeah because when people look at me they think I'm 8 or 9 but my whole family is small."
--Zoe, 12
"I'm not pretty at all: ( All the other grlz are definite model material. And I'm just a worthless piece of trash. My parents encourage me to do my best, but sometimes it's not good enough. How can I be happy and love myself if I can't even fit in at school or be like my sisters with talents?"
--Kristina, 11
"I would say I only compare myself with others a little bit. The reason why I do that is because if feel like I should change my body a little bit and maybe my personality a little bit too."
--Tenielle, 13
"Mostly all the other girls are wayyyy prettier than me."
--Michelle U., 11
"Ya right Scarlet (forgive me if I spell your name not right) have you ever compared yourself to THE Josh Gorban or to anyone like him? I didn't think so, his voice is so beautiful compared to mine..."
--Anonymous
"I am skinny and I play sports. And sometimes I compare my self to my friend Terrie. She is bigger than me. And I am flat. I'd like some advice on how I can stop! HELP ME PLEAZE!"
--TGC, 11
"I usually don't, except when I'm dealing with my sisters. You know how siblings can be..."
--Leigh, 12
"Yes, I do. Almost all the time! The only reason is because my friends insult me so it makes me feel bad then I compare myself with them! Everyone seems so much better than me!"
--Jessh, 11
"Yes and I wish I could stop."
--Abby
"I know I'm weird but I don't let that get to me, I also know I have good friends who like me. It's not about being cool!"
--Lexi, 9
"I don't need to because I am unique. I am as unique as a fingerprint. No one else is like me and no one ever will be. My song is soulful and joyous. It is all my own."
--Silly Sagie
"Millions and I never felt sad or anything because I was better at everything they did =)."
--Anonymous
"Well, I think it's vise versa for me because one of my friends always says stuff like "I am in a better clarinet group then you" when they are just different for whatever you are better at. And she says to me all the time "Wow you look weird" or she says" your hair is horrible" She isn't me so she doesn't know everything about me."
--Viseversa, 11
"Yes! I mostly do it to my family and friend Leah."
--Lauryn
"Yes, I used to compare myself with my friend, veronica because veronica is such a good singer and I'm not, she's a good dancer and I'm not, she really has a talent for acting and composing songs and I don't even know how to act but now I know that you shouldn't compare yourself with others ’Äòcuz everyone's unique and everyone has his/her own talents......=)."
--Anonymous
"Guidalia, 13: Good thought! I'm gonna tell that 2 my lil bro who compares himself with other kids his age a lot. GOD does NOT make JUNK! (Only the Devil makes junk. ) 2sday, April 808."
--Shoot4themoon, 13
"I'm very 'big'. All my friends are 'flat'. I feel unusual around boys and I don't know what to do."
--Noor
"Yup, I did a lot of times! At first, people (my friends) use to practically say 'even if Shannon's a little weird, she's still my best friend. ' That made me feel happy inside, but when I grew older, I changed and instead of 'even if Shannon's weird' thing, it would be 'Shannon's cool, she's better than before. ' That always would make me remember about the times people said that! I even think that when you compare yourself, it makes me feel weird. I think of it as when you grow up, it would be naturally changed! DON"T WORRY ABOUT IT PEOPLE!"
--Shannon, 10
"If I was a compare to another person I would be just like them?"
--Karina, 10
"Actually, I do compare myself to others a lot, but not in a good way. I am a full-figured teenager and I look at all these skinny girls and think: why me? it's hard to grow up being a teenager and being teased all the time, but the sad truth is that many people go through it. And there are some very mean people in the world that DO tease you. And it's hard to ignore them. But sometimes you have to. You have to always remember to keep your head up and say I AM BEAUTIFUL. Because, inside, and outside, you are!"
--Nichole, 13
"I used to compare myself to this girl in my class. She seemed to have it all:) be popular, get As, and have a terrific boyfriend. I learned that I don't have to be just like her to fit in. I just have to be myself."
--Emily
"My dad is really mean and I have anger management problems and I think it comes from him and I don't have friends so I'm always bored."
--Sad, 8
"Yup. All my friends r sporty but I like less active stuff and I like think I'm fat (but ppl say I'm not I dunno:)S) so like I wonder why I cant run as fast or I get outta breath more then them:)S."
--Carrie, 12
"I don't really compare myself with others. Or at least I try not to. I know that God made me who I am and I'm okay with that. I like who I am! I am different and unique...So No, I don't really compare myself with others!"
---_- *-* :)D, 13
"I don't think I'm like most other kids at all I'm wear all black sometimes and I'm weird so yay I don't think I am compared to any other kids."
--Samantha, 11
"When I compare myself to others sometimes I compare myself as pretty and sometimes I compare my self as tiny."
--Latrisha, 11
"I use to compare myself with my brother Nick when I was like six and he was 10. I use to wonder why I couldn't run as fast, jump as high, or understand big words like he could. When I got to the age of like eight I told myself, 'I'm not Nick, I'm me, and being me is okay! '."
--Yessica, 11
"Do you ever compare yourself to others? I sometimes do. In my own words I think maybe if they peek in something maybe once or twice but sometimes it can get pretty annoying after a lot of times."
--Lauren, 10
"Well, yeah because my mom tells me that I'm more like my dad since I sometimes have an attitude."
--M&M, 12
"Yes I always compare myself with others."
--Asia, 8
"Sometimes I do. But then I remember that there's no one as special as me and that I'm perfect just the way I am. :)."
--Suad, 10
"I compare myself to all the 'skinny' girls. I'm bigger set and it tears me up. What I found out is that were each different. That's what no one can compare to..."
--Dakota, 9
"Well comparing yourself is bad. When you do so your telling GOD that he done nothing for you or he hasn't blessed you at all. We all may especially girls but remember this "I'm beautiful and wonderful made, because GOD created me and GOD does not make JUNk"."
--Guidalia, 13
"I think everyone, at some point in their life has compared themself to another person...It's simple human nature. People like to compare and to judge themselves according to how they rate next to other people. I don't believe this is a very wise thing to do, some people I know spend so much time comparing themselves to others that they forget who they are and what their own purpose is. It's important for people to realize that a lot of times we compare ourselves because we try to be like that other person in some way. We just have to remember what's really important in this world is to be glad for BEING ourselves. I am me, you are you...And we're proud of it."
--Caramel
"Yes, I compare myself to my friends. I feel like whenever I play games with them and we chooses players on a team I always don't get to be with my bestest friends and I always be chosen last. And I'm really great at those games, but they think that I'm really bad. And I feel like I don't belong with them."
--Lily, 10
"I don't really compare myself to anyone well, because I am proud of myself for who I am. Think about it."
--SnowBudddiesFan, 9
"Yep, but when I realize I cant be like somebody even when I try super hard. At first it made me feel like I was a weirdo. But I realize I'm me and I should be a good example. Somebody might just try to be like you!"
--Salonica, 11
"It is ok to compare yourself to others, but I believe that you are special in your own way, and that is what I love about me!"
--Mandee, 13
"I don't compare myself with others because when you compare your self you feel like your a nothing, so you never see all the ugly things that person has so just love your self the way you are then you'll feel like someone new and that will take the sadness and madness away from you and when you don't even no it that person just might start comparing with other people. Just remember don't compare yourself and tell that to other people to people who are your friends and even tell people you hate. And like your self!"
--Katherine, 9
"I compare myself sometimes to other girls. IN EVERY WAY. But I know at the end of the day, I'm always better at everything. God gave you that look 4 a reason And I'm sure it is perrrrrrrrrrrfect. HA HA."
--Breanna, 12
"I compare myself with this girl who has a super good singing voice. I sing ok, but not that great. I wish I could be better, but the fact that that girl is better than me bugs me. Help?"
--Shoot4themoon, 13
"Of course......Everyone does."
--Emma, 10
"I seriously think that it's hard not to. Especially for teenage girls or "Tween" girls. There are so many people around us, eventually you're going to find yourself comparing either you to someone else or someone you know to another person..."
--Mcr13, 12
"NO! Comparing yourself to others is stupid because everyone's different and special in unique ways. But everyone knows that once you start comparing yourself to others it usually means that you're running low on self-confidence. You can gain it back by thinking of things that you like about yourself or what other people like about you! =)."
--Alyssa, 8
"I compare myself to all the 'skinny' girls. I'm bigger set and it tears me up. What I found out is that were each different. That's what no one can compare to..."
--Alexandra, 11
"I compare my self wit Cristina 'cause we kinda have the same kind of hair we kind of dress the same we r the same height and she's the popular girl in school."
--Taylor, 12
"I'm always comparing me to friends, or the girls in my class with me, I'm always comparing guys on the hot rank 1-10 and I just well I'm the smallest in my class height and b**** ugh!"
--Julia, 11
"I compare myself, but I don't imitate them."
--Yulia, 13
"I wish I was skinnier. People always make fun of me. FAT PEOPLE AREN'T DIFFERENT FROM SKINNY PEOPLE! I just want to get skinnier."
--Anonymous, 9
"I think everyone compares themselves to other people...Especially because of tabloids and the way they influence people. I compare myself to others but then I think that it's better to be an individual and more people will like you if you're that way. People are only popular if you think they are, people will think you're pretty if you think you're pretty. You don't need to compare yourself to anyone else to be unique!"
--Anonymous
"I can't shut up. Everyone else finds it to be a piece of cake, but I literally can't shut my pie hole if the world depended on it."
--Katie P., 10
"Yes I do sometimes. And sometimes I don't like it."
--Savannah, 11
"Not really. I just know that a lot of people do. I just laugh at the people that have pimples. : D I don't any more. But I laugh at the people that did to me."
--Heather, 12
"I sometimes compare myself to others because I feel like I am somehow related to he or she. One of the people that I compare myself to is Kevin Bounds because he is a very funny 13 year old boy in my seventh grade class at Schuylerville Jr. Sr. High school."
--Willow, 13
"Yeah many times! I always ask to myself the same question over and over again! "Why is my life not like them?" Why? Should I change for good? I'm really confused about it!"
--Dorcas, 12
"Ya comparing yourself to others is totally normal and everybody does it. The one thing though that everybody has to remember is that you are unique and you have to stay that way (don't change to be like someone else) because then you will no longer stand out on your own."
--Scarlett
"Ya. Every one does!"
--Heather
"I do all the time. Always wanting to be thinner. It is a curse. You look better, boys will think you're hot...Blah blah blah. I wish I was thinner..."
--Abby, 13
"Sometimes. But, I don't let that get to me. All I think is: Wow, she's really sporty. I wish I were good at sports. Why am I not? WAIT! I like myself the way I am!"
--Anna, 12
"Why are all my friends skinny and light and I'm fat and heavy?!?!?! They are attractive and pretty and I'm like a boy repellent! I attract the morons and yuckies and class clowns!"
--Katie P., 10
"I look like a girl in 8 grade lol."
--Adi, 12
"I do a lot of the time but I can never find anything similar between me and other people! : P Oh well, I guess that can be a good thing!"
--Aggie, 12
"I totally do! All the time. A lot of my friends are really skinny and short, and I'm really tall and average. I play rough sports and ride horses, and sometimes I look at the "Girly-girls" and think, "Am I supposed to be like them?" Then I remind myself. "NO!" I am me, and God loves me and made me the way I am. I'm unique, and I should be grateful that I'm not like anyone else. Everyone is special and unique!"
--Jesuslover, 12
"I don't compare myself to others any more because I found out my sense of style is unique and MINE all MINE no one else wears they type of clothes I wear and I like it that way. Because unique to me is special and different for a change not just the same (and I see a boy who always stared at me when I had the same style now he loves to stare at me! )."
--Dog, 10
"I do all the time in gym class. Many of the other girls always seem so good at sports and are really athletic and in shape. They really impress the boys and the teachers. I am always proud of who I am except 4 these moments. I am very self-conscious in front of them. I rarely exercise besides in the summer and aren't into sports but am very well rounded otherwise."
--Jackie, 13
"I compare myself with my friend. She's pretty, and has a good body. Everyone likes her soo much. All I am is a kid with long blonde hair and brown eyes, with normal clothes. I think when I'm seeing it like that, "You're always different in a way and nobody's perfect!"."
--Ann, 13
"If you compare yourself to another person, sometimes, you're never alike. If you want to be like others, it's just no fun. Be yourself. It's better. You'll make friends too!"
--Padia, 10
"Do you compare yourself to others? I do. And I'm the only one who never fits in. What I've learned is just be yourself and everything will be okay."
--Austin, 10
"I kinda do in a way. But I don't take it as harsh as some people. I know I appear this way, or that way. But...HELLO! I am ME and I am SUPPOSED to look different. We weren't all built to look like same robots or something. So: Yes I do compare my self to others. But, It's not like I have a problem."
--RoxxiMe, 11
"Yes I'm a lil overweight and I wish I could be like the pop kids that would be really cool but when u get in 7th grade learn that it isn't always important to be like them!"
--Leandra, 12
"Yes I always do it's not a good thing to do, but I can't help but think what if my life was easy like hers etc."
--Shaz
"I do sometimes. I don't feel good about it."
--Amber, 10
"I do not compare myself with others because everyone is different and nobody's perfect."
--Sekna D., 11
"Yes..."
--K, 12
"Yes I do. Unfortunately I do. My supposed-to-be friend, Jenna, gets all of the guys, has everything that she wants because her dad is a doctor, and she has never gotten a B in her life, but that's just because her mom saves her older sister's papers so that she can just go off of those although her mom and the rest of her family are very nice. I just cant help but want to be as pretty as she is, as smart as she is, and as spoiled as she is considering that she is the best gymnast/dancer in our whole school which goes up to eighth grade. Jeez!"
--Amanda, 11
"To Emily I feel the same sometimes and it really bugs me."
--ILUV2read
"Only sometimes but I try not to because then it will just make me feel bad so you shouldn't."
--Emily
"Yes I do so I can learn things of how we are, ourselves : D."
--MzR, 12
"Yes I did because I thought I was not better then him I was sad and unhappy but latter on I found I was better then him in different things."
--Kennyboy, 12
"Eloise 12, umm, why?"
--Summer, 11
"Yes I compare to fools."
--Bobby
"Yes I always compare myself to others because I think they are very cool and they all hate me because I am not cool. I am very popular at school and people hate me because they think I'm too cool for them."
--Jorge
"I think we should stop comparing ourselves to others, I mean. We're all the same and I know sometimes it's hard to NOT compare yourselves to others, because I sometimes do that too. Just try your best, I am trying myself too."
--KL, 12
"Most of the time. I want to be as good at things that other people are good at. I feel bad when I can't measure up..."
--Faizah, 11
"To Jessica, 9: Do you fell good comparing yourself with others? I don't think so. If so, well it's your way of being, but if the answer is no...I think you just should be yourself; you should be happy with you. It's your style. (And this is for everyone, not only for Jessica. )."
--Nathasha, 12
"Yes once. I regretted it. I compared myself to my popular friend and I saw a HUGE difference I wasn't friends with practically everyone in the school. To tell you the truth if I put a scale on I probably would be a 2 compared to her 1-2<-3-4-5-6-7-8-9-10 But I do not mind now I have a different group and with them I would be a 1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8-9-10< 10!"
--Annie, 10
"It's hard to compare me to others because I'm really more affectionate and interested in more serious things then others..."
--Chloe, 9
"I don't like compare myself with others because if I do I might feel like I look like I'm not as pretty as other girls. And I don't as many friends because I'm new in school..."
--Fatimah, 12
"To Eloise also: It's horrible! Be glad you don't have it yet! I got mine in 4th grade!"
--Jessica B., 12
"Yea I do sometimes, I have this one friend who is good at everything! I have been on her sports teams before and I just get a little overwhelmed with how good she is and how bad I am. I just wish that I could be as good as her..."
--Callie, 12
"One time, yes."
--Emily, 11
"'To Eloise why no you do not."
--Bob, 11
"I compare myself to others all the time, because I'm one of the first girls in my class to 'mature'. It drives me nuts! I just wish I was a boy so I wouldn't have to deal with this stuff : < (."
--Emily, 11
"To Emily, 11, you should be happy that you have breasts. It just means you're more attractive than before."
--Jane, 11
"Yes. Because I have to have everything others have, that's nice. And I have VERY big issues. I only buy some things because someone else can't. I could get a 1,000,000 dollar item just because I see someone else staring at it, hoping to find that much somewhere on the floor."
--Sabbie, 11
"Yes...I have a friend Casey and he shows off but he is really good at it."
--Logan, 10
"Why should I do that? I think that's not good."
--Nathasha, 12
"Hi. I like to eat cheese, I where glasses, and I like frogs. Do you think I should compare myself with others? No way!"
--Ladybug, 10
"I don't really compare myself to other people all the time. ''cause I fell like I'm not pretty but I'm average because boys like me and the be the cute boys too. Also people don't make fun of me they compliment me because I'm popular like them or in the same rank."
--Rinia, 13
"I do, sometimes I am not sure why I do."
--Kammi, 12
"O Lord will thee not take care of thy servant?" My friend Sue LOVES to quote scenes from Shakespeare and other stuff. She's probably the smartest person in the school. Her father travels a lot and her mom acts in occasional movies so her mom hired a relative to look over her. But the relative hired this housekeeper and Sue hardly ever got to see her family. So she started reading lots of books and doing very advanced science experiments at her house. She has a much higher IQ than I do. I mean, she's reading books like "Journey to the 10th Dimension" and a few other ones. When I compare myself to her, I feel sort of weird."
--Eliza, 9
"Ah, yea!"
--Jessica, 9
"I try not to...I am who I am and I like that about myself."
--Ashlie<3, 12
"We should never compare our selves because it is our way to be it is who we are we don't need to change. If you compare your self to a popular boy/girl and you say he/she is cool I am not be proud because that cool person will have a bad future. We are special we are who we are and we will never change."
--Ruben, 8
"I always think that I am a dork compared to others. I wish I could feel good about myself."
--Farah, 8
"Yes. I try not to, though...:)."
--CoolQueen1, 12
"To Eloise 12, NO U DON'T!"
--Someone, 12
"I feel sorry for Alsha (10). I know how it feels to see someone u care for cry. It hurts, doesn't it? my teacher cried bc her relative died and she said "Whenever u get off the phone, you should say I love you, bc you might never see them again. So u should always say I love u."."
--Lily, 10
"I'm a Muslim. I wear long modest clothing. Most people these days wear tight clothing. I don't have a bf. My religion does not accept that. People tell me to wear tight clothing."
--Duniyah, 12
"No, because you have to be yourself..."
--Amanda
"My friend and I are trying to compare ourselves to others. How do you think it is going to be hard?"
--Julie, 12
"I try not to. I like myself the way I am. (:."
--BeachBumm88
"No. I think I'm just great the way I am!!!"
--BusyGirl123
"I feel insecure about my body shape. Most girls in my class haven't it puberty and they don't have breasts yet. Plus, I'm the tallest person in my class, even taller than the boys. I just wish I wasn't so different."
--Emily, 11
"Hello. My name is Katie and I collect pine cones."
--Katie
"I wish I had my period."
--Eloise, 12
’ÄúDo you find your self comparing yourself to others? Well u are not the only one. I find myself comparing myself to the girls in my class all the time. Ok, say there is this guy that you like and he tell you that your chest is too small but he goes to a girl that is so much larger than you. That hurts so bad. See why I compare myself to others? I wish that people could see me the way I see myself.’Äù
--*anonymous*, 13
’ÄúI sometimes wish I did not have disabilities and u just got to be thankful for who u really are because god made u this way. And you’Äôre supposed to be happy and rejoice because god is proud of u and for who u are and so are your family.’Äù
--Angelina
"Yes of course I compare myself to others. Just about every girl does. I compare my boobs to other girls. I will look at them at the locker rooms and say "OMG I want mine that big." Do you do anything like that?"
--Someone, 13
"Yes. Too much. It lowers my self-esteem."
--Matthew_hearts, 11
’ÄúOf course I compare myself to others! Listen, I had a best friend in third grade, then she moved, she came back popular! She is pretty, has the same features as me, but she's just...OKAY, SHE'S NOT THE SAME SINCE SHE LEFT!!!!’Äù
--A. J., 11
"Yes! All the time I find myself comparing me to other ppl. I feel as everyone else is so much better than me. I also have a depression problem. So that makes it much worse. I always think the others girls are skinnier than me and that I'm fat but everyone else tells me no ur not fat but in my heart I know I am. Thanx for listening..."
--Haleigh
"I can't tell who I am anymore."
--Elysa, 10
’ÄúWell of course, a lot of girls do. They want to be like the more perfect girl, and when they see that they compare so they can look act and talk just like them...Many girls do it...Some go too far to look that the girl and some don't. It's all in how you perceive it.’Äù
--Kendall, 13
"Yes, but I learned I am who I am. Another person is themself and you are yourself. Don't think your friends are better."
--Kessy, 8
Dealing With Death
"It's only 3 days back from school and I find my teacher crying, but I wonder what for? In the afternoon I found out my reception teacher died (of a heart attack). I was crying but I feel like I could have done something to prevent it."
--Alisha, 10
"This year my grandma died from clostridium difficile. I was very sad..."
--Brennan, 8
"My dog twinkle died because another dog killed her and made a hole in her neck. Blood came out. When I came back from school twinkle was already dead. I miss her a lot. But now I have two more dogs. Now I don't feel playing alone. Twinkle was the best dog a person could ever have. She's in heaven now!"
--Jessica, 11
"A very close boy, my niece's ex-boyfriend, died on September 7th of this year. I'm having a really hard time accepting this. He was only 19. He has a little brother who looks just like him in my algebra 1 class. Every time I look at him I think of Colton. What do I do? I want to say I'm sorry to him, but I don't want to talk about his brother's death."
--Rochelle
"Hi!! I have been really sad and don't feel like doing anything at all. Cuz I lost a guy that was going 2 be my bf. He got hit by a car behind my house. He was only 16!! And I don't have a dad and my mom does not pay any mind 2 me. So he was my world and now he's gone!! What am I supposed 2 do? it is so hard 2 go on. Sometimes I feel like giving up on life cuz it's not fair at all. Plz help me be happy again!! R. I. P baby boy. I love you."
--Amanda, 13
"I compare myself to others at school because kids talk at school too much. I just wish sometimes they could be a good student like me. I don't mean to brag but, the teachers say so. I hate it when I see that look in the teachers eyes like "Why did I even start teaching?"..."
--Ryant, 13
"ALL THE TIME!!! I'm either too fat, too tall or have a mustache. But hey everyone's unique and magazines and TV are brainwashing us to say what's hot and what's not!"
--Ella, 10
"I thought I wasn't normal, but now I know that everyone is normal in their own way."
--Kaylee, 9
"I always have the same dream every night that someone comes in my house and kill my parents. Then it's only me and my brother left to fend for ourselves. Then we go to their funeral, and cry our eyes out because we missed them so much. WE would always watch our baby videos because they were on our baby videos."
--Amanda, 11
"I feel like I have tried to deny I have compared myself to others, but now I know that I am my own person."
--Ryant, 13
"Yes. I compare myself to friends all the time."
--Maddy, 11
"No not really. I’Äôm fine."
--Christina, 11
"Sometimes. Saying or insulting yourself will make you feel worse. The only person who can hurt you is yourself. If someone insults you, you have a choice. To agree with that someone, or to stand up to that someone. Don't think that you're better than another person either. That's just bragging. Everyone is different and you can't help to judge people, but don't look at just the outside. Nobody likes to be treated badly and to be judged by, so people wouldn't like to be around you because you judge people."
--Theresa, 10
’ÄúEr’Ķnot really, '’Äòcause I have tons of friends at my school and I love to be myself!! They all love me for who I am (a fun-loving, Aeropostale-crazy, basketball-obsessed, way-to-tall 12 year old! ).’Äù
--Hello, 12
’ÄúI always compare myself to others. In my story, I compare myself to my best friend, Tommy.’Äù
--Orlin
"Well, sometimes I do. I say that my friends are better students than me or, "Look at that beautiful and lucky girl!" I wish I was her. But some other times I don't."
--Anahi
"I think girls have big issues with that, and boys too, I think. I really hate when girls at school compare me to other girls. I don’Äôt like to be compared. I’Äôm me not her and I’Äôm not ever going to be. I hate that. I do sometimes compare my own self to other girls. Like I wish my hair was as strait as her (I have wavy hair), things like that. I really hate when other girls do that to me. It’Äôs like they’Äôre always going to find better or worse things in you and/or the other person. And that hurts. It’Äôs all to catty for me!!!"
--Erika*, 12
"I feel like I am the weird-o who stands out from the crowed and doesn't belong in public places. If, say, we girls had a choice to go shopping, or buying video games, I would chose video games. So I don't fit in with the girls. But, say the boys had a choice between shopping or sports, I'd say sports. So since I fit in better with the guys, I try to act more like them. And I also try to hang with them. But all the girls think I am weird. Boo me..."
--Jacqueline, 11
’ÄúI always compare myself to others. Most of the time I always say, ’ÄúOh she’Äôs prettier me than me, ’Äù and ’ÄúI shouldn’Äôt ask him out because he doesn’Äôt like me.’Äù Without even asking him. ’ÄúHe’Äôll go out with anyone but me.’Äù I say this in my mind.’Äù
--Evelyn, 13
"I feel like I dont belong in school...Most people dont like me and I have very few friends who only like my jokes when I make fun of myself. I always get bad grades in group projects because those other kids dont listen to me when they are wrong. One time someone wrote a paper saying I hate her all over, and on the back it said my name. ;_;."
--Raynna, 10
"Of course I compare myself to others! Who doesn't? But I also keep in mind that we weren't all created with the same exact gifts, and us being different from each other is what makes us such great people. Think about it - do you ONLY have friends who are on the school basketball team, or do you hang out with totally different people? Personally, I love the differences that each person has - it makes us who we are!"
--Maddie, 12
"Do I ever! Sometimes I get the feeling that life itself is just a race and you have to compare yourself with others and only the best win. Im an extremely competitive person, so of course I compare myself with other people. Grades, athletics, privileges, possessions...You name it. I have a natural tendency to compare myself with others. I like to figure out where I stand in the crowd."
--Anonymous, 11
"I'm not exactly "Normal, " but I guess I sometimes do compare myself with others. But except for my weight, because I'm always heavier than they are."
--Caroline
"Okay, here's my view on it: I TOTALLY compare myself, and I do it frequently!! BUT I DON'T add it as a burden that I don't wear Abercrombie or Hollister or American Eagle. That's MY personal choice, and usually my clothes look as good as any Abercrombie clothes. So I'm pretty happy with my fashion sense."
--1stchair4ever, 12
"Well, I guess ''cuz I'm kind of chunky, I compare my self to skinny people. But other than that, I LOVE MYSELF!!!"
--Chocolatelover, 11
"Yes. Everybody has skinny little stick legs! I weigh more then a sixth grader!"
--Alexis, 8
"Bri- to answer your question about how guys compare themselves...I'm no psychologist, but the guys are probably just as self-conscious as us girls. That might be why they always try to act so tough: to conceal their fears. So they probably (secretly) compare themselves by how many girls they flirt with. Which is a pointless way of comparing...But we all do it, in our own way."
--1stchair4ever, 12
"If I could compare myself with any animal it would be a iguana, because I'm short and very pale (I'm not sick though). And my eyes change colors and my body turns red all the time."
--Gabby, 9
"Well ya, don't we all? I mean, ya can't help but look at someone and not think, "Hey she is such-and-such compared to me." It's just human nature. Just try not to do it too much."
--GirlySwEeT
"I used to, because I thought I needed 2. But I learned not to, because you will just make yourself sad."
--Tjcagurl101, 11
"When I compare myself with others I really get annoyed with them sometimes."
--Grace
"I'm 12. I'm really fat. I compare saying "Why can't I weigh as much as her? She's prettier. I'm so ugly." this caused me to go into a deep depression, but I don't tell anybody but my bf, 'cause he thinks the same as me."
--Cath, 12
"Oh yeah. I'm 5'4 and weigh 156 pounds."
--Cath, 12
"Madcow: "I compare myself with my cat." Ok, how do you do it!? That's so weird. I'm not kidding, Cats are ANIMALS."
--Lilly5210, 13
"I really don't need to. I mean I'm tall, I'm thin, but I'm not very developed, but nobody in my class really is. Except for one girl. But I don't compare myself to her."
--Tessa, 10
"Everybody compares themselves to somebody else. Not just girls but a lot of guys too. That's why there's so much conflict at school. People get hurt because of it, but you have to get over them and mostly yourself. You can't sit there and feel bad for yourself when you have the ability to change. Everybody's different and if others don't like you for you, then your only option is to change you or make them see what you can be."
--Eva, 13
"No you shouldn't, because your perfect the way you are!"
--Lauren, 10
"I compare myself with other girls. They have perfect noses. Mine is so huge, talk about a bump."
--Meghan, 11
"Oh, all the time! Comparing myself is how I got to hating my body and everything about my physical appearance. I used to always tell myself, "Well, you're not FAT exactly, but you're just curvier than most’Ķ" but as of maybe a few months ago, I've decided. "No more doubts about it. I'm fat and that's all there is to it." Yeah. I've got the worst body image in the world : /."
--Raji, 12
"I do compare myself with my friends all the time (thinking if only I could be like her or look more like her), but now I've realized that u should embrace being u and be comfortable in your own skin, becuz u are an amazing person just like the person u have no need to envy..."
--Ashley
"I try hard not to."
--Lilly 5210, 13
"I compare myself with my cat. : p."
--Madcow: :, 10
"I compare myself to other girls, 'cause I am not developed. I'm as flat as a pancake: - (."
--Lindsey, 10
"I feel so down,
all the time.
I feel like I'm helpless.
because I always commit a crime.
I envy those girls,
who don't steal or lie.
I envy them so much,
I want to cry.
I steel and lie and,
smoke and stuff,
because I feel pressured to,
boy life is tough.
but there is always a way,
to turn away from this misery.
Is to say to dear God,
"Please help me! Please help me!"
and so go helped me,
and I'm now I have a clean heart,
Jesus helped me threw one thing,
and that's only the start! : ) : ) : ) : ) : )."
--IMLauthorgirl
"Yes, I do I compare myself to people in my school and tell the differences. =/."
--Kelsey, 13
"I compare myself with my former friend-Jenna. She is the most popular girl in my grade and she has been since kindergarten. I am really popular too, but not as much as she is! Our popularity has never been a competition until fifth grade! Now we are not friends anymore and she is all of a sudden one of those girls that like picking on my twin brother! We going to middle school together in just a few weeks and I really hope everything will be ok!"
--Mandy, 11
"I compare myself too my sister because she has curves and a flat stomach. I try too look like that but I don't. I just have a little bit of curves, but not like my sister, and I want a flat stomach. HELP!!"
--Pinki, 11
"I'm not the skinniest girl around, but I'm not fat! I swim and play basketball. But people still make fun of me an I compare myself to them sometimes. Most of the time, though, I don't really care. Unless it's one of my friends. That hurts."
--Anonymous
"I agree with Partygirl. There's so many populars!! It's like you're forced to!!!"
--Anonymous
"Sometimes I do. But sometimes I don't really care what people say. I am happy with who I am, and u should be to."
--Jess, 12
"I would like it if I could start wearing cooler clothes. Maybe boys will like me more (I'm no good at flirting). But again, everyone is different. There is a boy somewhere in the world who likes you. I just have to wait for the right time."
--Lilly 5210, 12
"I compare myself to everyone. Espesh my bezzie mate. She had brown hair, and I have black. She has tanned skin, and I have white. She is a little on the big side, and I'm flat stomached. She has a bigger chest, matching her tummy, same as me. Flat!! This is gonna sound so mean; I'm pretty, and she isn't. Or so I'm told. I LOVE MYSELF. Sometimes. Also, I'm a nice person. I go out of my way to do things for others, I tell the truth, and I'm kind and loving. Gosh I'm bigging myself up. I'm just having a confident day. XxX."
--Alaska, 11
"I kind of like myself because I can do a back bend and a handstand, plus a cartwheel. I'm pretty cool, except I don't like my clothes. I actually compare myself with others becuz they play cooler instruments than me and they seem to have a perfect life. I can only play one song with the recorder: "Mary had a little lamb." And that's about it. So peace!"
--Lilly 5210, 12
"Yes I do. Every time I go out with my friends I compare myself to them, but it's bad because it lowers my confidence. I always put myself down knowing they're prettier, shorter, and thinner."
---Maritza
"I used to wish that I looked like this one girl named Ashlie in my second grade class. I also wanted to be her best friend. I guess that you could say that she was more of the popular type in my grade. I don't know why I wanted to be just like her so much. Now that I look back at it, I think that that was very silly of me to do. But now that I'm older, I realized that I just want to be me and look like me. And I'm happy with that!"
--I love CANDY! <3
Yes. I know I shouldn't, but with all the popular girls, what can I do?
--Partygirl, 11
Sometimes I do to other girls. Because they are devolved more than I am.
--Meg, 9
I compare myself to my friend Jackie. She's shy and Im not. She has black hair and I have brown. We both have one thing that we like: EACH OTHER!!!!!!!!!
--Jessica, 8
Yes I do...
--Alicia, 11
Yeah I do, but sometimes when I like a boy and I see maybe his girl, and Im like, I wish I looked like that, or maybe if I had her hair!
--Cocoa, 13
Sometimes I see the really popular kids and start feeling down and comparing myself.
--Tiffany, 12
I know it isn't good to do, but I do it WAY too much! I mostly do it on how I look. Some girls are cuter, some are not!
--CreamPuff, 10
Me too, because I sometimes compare myself to others because they look better than me. Thats what I hate. I have bad skin. I wish I had normal skin and could talk better and have boys around me, but its not like that. Some boys had crushes on me but I didn't like them at all! But I know that my body will change soonI hope!! Ha ha ha. Im not kidding at all. But for now school is more important than some boys.
--Vanessa, 12
Yes like every second of the day. Im constantly comparing myself with others. First it was clothes, then hair, and now its weight. Im just too skinny. All the other girls in my class are bigger than me!!! Oh well...
--LemonIce, 11
Naw, I like the skin Im in, per say. But, I HATE it when others put themselves (And try to put me down, too) down and say stuff like: 'Oh, I wish I was as skinny as Paris Hilton', or say Im Emo, should act more like a girl, or Im just not their ideal. I almost smashed someone's face into the ground for doing that. I like myself. Period.
--Maddie, 11
I sometimes compare myself to others. I compare almost everything to either the popular girls or to one of my friends. The girls in my class normally compare what they weigh and what they eat. To them I am considered weird because I don't eat meat.
--Grace, 10
I see all these football players and stuff an that makes me think Im small. But on one hand it made me wanted to get into shape.
--CT, 12
"I look at the TV and see all these good looking people with all their money, and wish that I could have what they have.
--Deja d4l
No not really. But when people tease me about my shortness and because Im not in with the popular kids, I get mad. When I compare myself to others, I think, Why am I mad? Just because they have something I don't, it means that I have something special, too!!
--Joanne, 10
Sometimes. I see girls on TV and I even try to be like them. I think very one is special in there own way...
--Lilly 5210, 12
I used to think that every girl in my class had a bigger butt than me. I used to get med when they told me that I had a flat back and said rhymes like, How you get like that with a butt sooo flat? boy, I'd be mad until I got home. I used to do stuff like eat cornbread, greens, and regular white bread. When I realized that I wasnt doing anything but gaining weight, I stopped and just remained myself...
--Theitgirl
Do you sometimes compare yourself to others or do your parents compare yourself to other people?
--Laniyah, 11
OMG! I was 4eva doing dat but then I thought it's not gonna happen so I started being me and now a few people want 2 b me! Im veggie, arty, and a tomboy. I dress different, speak 5 languages and my life depends on music. It's me! No one else!
--Eejit, 12
Some of the time I do. One of my friends is gorgeous with no acne, straight, white teeth, and I think my crush likes her. I also compare myself to another gorgeous girl who seems flawless with her looks. I think my crush might like her, too. IT'S SO ANNOYING!!
--Samantha, 12
I get judged a lot because Im tall for my age and Im shy at school, plus Im not a girly-girl! I ride horses, work at the stable, talk to my horse, swim in creeks, and drive 4-wheelers! Im not the girly type. All those things put together make me an easy target. I just ignore the mean girls who are judging and keep on hanging out with boys. Because I have God, and he made me how I should be, so nothing else truly matters. My family loves me how I am and think Im a nice, funny, tomboyish, pretty girl. So I don't care when people talk about me behind my back. I ignore them. I know God gave me the strength to not care what anyone thinks about me...
--Ponytailgirl, 11
I am constantly wondering if I am as pretty or smart as other people in my high school. My family and friends think so. However, I can't help but think that they have a biased opinion of me. I want to believe what they are telling me, but it is just hard for me to see myself as anything besides boring and uninteresting me. My older is the most beautiful girl I know and my little sister is so funny and smart. I feel like I am stuck in the middle without anything extraordinary about me...
--Amanda
No, I try really hard not to because we are all special in our own way. So why compare? : ).
--BusyGirl123
Well...I think Im different from the kids in my school. My interests and likes are less mature than that of other middle schoolers, (I love Simba) and Im not like the others. But I don't mind. I just enjoy the way I am...
--Simba11, 13
I actually try not to as much as I can. : ].
--Monica, 12
I do. But then I realize that I am my own person and I have a different personality. My friends, family, and boyfriend love me 'cause Im myself.
--Taylor, 12
I never compare myself to other people, but other people compare me to people and I dont like it.
--Natalie, 13
I sometimes do because I have bad hair at times and I am overweight. But there's this girl at my school and she's all Hollister and Abercrombie, she's tall skinny has nice hair, and she has guys all over her! She just knows what to say to be popular in 1 day! Everyone's jealous of her, but I like being me!
--Megan, 12
Umm. YES! I mean who hasn't I compare myself to others although Im not proud of it. Im floating somewhere between 115-120 pounds and I dont think Im overweight, I just have a lil tummy fat is all. Ive learned to not compare myself as much 'cause its just putting yourself down and everyone tells me Im an amazing person and Im realizing that - so Im pretty happy about myself I just have to get into healthier habits is all. So I can feel good and look good.
--Meme, 13
"Yeah I do. It's kinda a bad habit because sometimes it just puts you down so my advice, just don't do it!
--Hope, 11
I do it in my mind, because Im a very shy person. But I do it sometimes, and that gets me depressed.
--Athena, 12
It's hard not to compare my self with other people...because hey, Im a girl. I have won best dressed more times than I can count so the hardest thing would be not comparing myself with people's clothes. It makes me feel good when people compare themselves with me because it makes me feel awesome...Does that sound a little to confident? Give me some Advice PLZ!!!!
--Shelby, 10
Of course. Who doesn't? Sometimes I get jealous of other girls because they seem more confident than me, or better at certain subjects like math and science than me, or prettier than me. Then I realize that Im better at them at Language Arts, and that Im pretty in my own way. Everyone has good points and everyone has bad points. I guess we should all just DEAL with it. But I guess we'll ALWAYS compare ourselves with others. I mean, it's human nature, right?
--Alyssa, 13
If you ever don't fit in because you act like everyone else, then I don't think it counts because I know it sounds cheesy but you NEED to be yourself to fit in and if no one likes the real you then their too fake and you should NOT want to hang with them or you will turn fake and do that to the next kid that comes along.
--Yourself and myself, 10
Sometimes when I am with my friend, Peggy", I notice that Im way BIGGER than her. And my other friend Meesha" likes to tease me and call me a lump of lard. It really hurts my feelings. I tell her to stop but she won't, so Ive started cutting back on my food portions. Should I do that?
--Bigmouth_101, 11
No way! I think comparing yourself to something your not is so stupid! I mean really, why compare yourself to someone else when you can just be YOU! It will make you special if you don't compare and try to be you for at least one time in your life. I never compare and Im never going too because I am so special the way I am and don't ever need to compare myself to someone else and neither should anyone else because everyone NEEDS to be their own person and have their own hobbies and no one should EVER have to go through with comparing his or her self. I know I won't ever do it.
--Rebecca, 8
Jenny: you really shouldn't be worrying about fat and skinny at your age. No one can really predict how they're going to look after puberty. I compare myself to other girls, but everything EXCEPT weight.
--Violet
I compared myself to Miley Cyrus, and I dressed like her, and the boys did not think I was any cooler. So it did not work as good as I thought it would.
--Natalie, 12
All the time! Lots of times I say things like I wish that I could be like this person because they are so good at doing something that Im not. But then I see people that compare themselves to me, and I realize that I should just be proud of who I am. That way I can help everyone else learn to love themselves!
--Keating, 13
Not usually but I do when people say Im weird.
--Ashley, 12
Sometimes, but it only makes me feel better. You see Im like the closest thing to perfect so I have nothing to worry about. Im humble, modest, honest, (they rhyme) (Ahhhh) and totally perfect!
--Mari, 13
People compare themselves to others because they feel less then what they are. I say you should share your feelings and not care what anyone else says or thinks.
--Bambam
Im always comparing myself to others. I don't know why people say my life is great, I have friends, I go out to skateland on Fridays every week, I go to the movies once a week, yet I feel empty and weird inside, unlike others who are comfortable in their skin. My friend Ashley once FARTED AT SKATELAND IN FRONT OF HER BOYFRIEND and she said Oopps... and started to laugh then everyone forgot about it. If that were me I would be so embarrassed, though I've never farted in public, and I plan not to EVER ( I hold it in then it goes away) Im still not as confident. -_-'.
--Ice Princess, 11
I have a question: how do guys compare themselves to others? Im curious because it is mostly girls on this one.
--Bri
At school I always see how well others fit in, and I often wish I fit in better, but I always try to remember what I can do that they can't.
--ReRe, 13
I always compare myself to others. It seems Im never as good enough for everyone else. Like Im not pretty enough, or skinny enough, or cool enough. But I have amazing friends that always tell me how great I am. They Say things to me like Emily I dont see where youre coming from with this. Maybe u need to see what I see." Stuff like that makes me feel so much better when I have my friends. Also I compare myself to others when they have boyfriends. Its like oh great Im the only single one but then I realize having a boyfriend isnt all that important.
--Emily, 13
Ok, sometimes I do. But I tell myself, everything will be better. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent!
--Mari, 13
Yes I have compared my self with others before. But I look at myself in the mirror and tell myself everything good about me. Everybody has great traits about themselves.
--Alex, 13
Yes. I sometimes think, she's better looking and skinner, or she has bluer eyes than me. But we need to be happy with our selves. Find out what you like about yourself...
--Samantha, 12
I LIKE TO CUZ then YOU feel GOOD about yourself OK?
--O_o
My older sister. She's very artistic, she draws a lot. Im bad at drawing...Oh well. I'd rather read a good book.
--Dale
Im not really posting anything of this subject, I just want to announce that I, Cat Women, Will be changing my screen name to Nomine, Thanks everybody!
--Cat women, 10
Eh, sometimes people compare themselves to me, sometimes I compare myself to them. I sometimes feel like I don't fit in with people. So yeah, every once in a while. Doesn't everybody?
--XFALLINGx, 10
NO00OO0OOOOOOO.
--Summertime, 12
Yes. I compare myself to my friend Stephanie, who has everything together and is very organized. It has actually helped me become more efficient and organized.
--Lucia, 11
I try to keep a low profile.
--Nobody
Im way different than anyone else is at my school, I dress differently, listen to different music and all that stuff...People make fun of me...And it hurts, a lot. So sometimes I compare myself to other girls, thinking: maybe if I was more like them, more people would like me. But then I realize that Im not gonna change Me" into something Im not just so more people will like me. So dont change You" into something your not...If you do, then...Youre too weak to be your own person...And youre a follower, not a leader.
--Cheyenne, 13
ALL the time. I always compare myself with my friends. Sometimes I think that I should get cloths from the same places as them, and act like them. I know that's not exactly what you're supposed to do, but I don't think that I would fit in if I didn't...
--Agnej
I WOULD NEVER DO A THING LIKE THAT! Kids should know better than to believe all those fad diets and stuff! When are they going to grow up?
--AppleandOrange, 12
Of course, all the time!
--Karen, 11
Yes in 1st- 4th grade everyone hated me and loved my best friend so I laid down the law and now I feel equally treated!!!!!!!!! : D.
--Jordan, 11
I think everyone should just except them for who they are. We all may have our faults and people may seem Better" but really we're all individual n we all have our good qualities. It may be hard for us to see them but other people love them.
--Jade
Yeah I do. Im always comparing myself to other people. I think Im not half as pretty as that girl right there," you know stuff like that. I try not to because I should be myself, and I am. I have my own unique personality but I have The look" of other people.
--Janelle, 12
Once I compared myself to this one girl. I thought she was cool. But then she called me a geek. Now, I dont think shes very cool at all. I dont compare myself to others anymore. Im just being myself, and thats WAY better than having anyone call me a geek.
--Katie, 10
Well maybe to see what a person has that you dont.
--Adilene, 11
Sometimes...
--Macy, 10
The way I deal with anger is fighting.
--Tyrez, 12
When I see people that wear stuff that is better than me. I have good and in style clothes but there is always somebody that looks better than me.
--Taylor, 11
Yes, I do it constantly; however, I always stop myself when it goes to far. I always think, 'How much skinnier is she than I am? ' and 'He's a much better musician than I am. 'It gets to the point at which I sometimes am on the brink of forgetting who I am. I think part of it is that I have some really talented friends and classmates. There's a lot of competition between me and my best friend --She and I both draw and paint, play music, and write really well. So when it comes time to do any of those things, I always think, 'I have to do better at this than Lumin, ' or 'Lumin could do this way better than I ever could. ' I have to tell myself that as long as I am the best that I personally can be, I am outstanding. It works every time. As for comparing body image with others'...Anyone have suggestions as to how to get over it?
--Amelia, 12
Well, in some cases yes...
--TJ
Not at all. We think being popular and wearing makeup and having great clothes is a big joke. We found out we're the most popular group in school and we didnt even try! Everyone agreed theyd rather be fat than as skinny as a twig that'll be blown down by the teensiest bit of criticism!
--Ginni, 13
I totally feel like I can compare myself to others in some good ways and bad. Someone I know is real selfish and a lot of the time I.
--Anonymous
"No, this is wrong. We need to be ourselves and that requires us to be different. No one can compare."
--Lana
"ALL THE TIME! I'm always comparing myself to blond girls who are prettier than me, and then when I see a skinny blond girl with a guy that I have feelings for...Omg! I get sooooo jealous, but since I know I'm only 11, and that I would never have a chance with a hot guy anyway, I try to stay invisible..."
--Anonymous
"NO! Where I like myself for who I am!! And everybody else should too!"
--Shorty
"One time when I was sleeping on my bed I had a dream about me being the queen of fort hall that's all."
--Sheyenne
"I do once and a while, But I don't try to be anybody else, now I'm not perfect, But none of us are. So for now, I'm me."
--Cat Women, 10
"Well sometimes I do and it really annoys me because first when I look at myself I feel very happy the way I look but then after seeing other people I realize I remember that I'm not the prettiest girl in da world: (."
--Samatha
"Yaa."
--Anonymous
"No. I am just happy with the way I look."
--LittleMiss Popular, 12
"Yes, Sometimes I get really jealous! We'll just leave it at that!"
--Anonymous
"Yes, I do compare myself to others at times for things mainly as weight. A lot of girls in my class a "Skinny-minnies" and I feel offended. I am not fat but I am not a skinny mini."
--Caitlin, 11
"I'm not very skinny and when I have to go 2 get togethers I don't wanna go cause I know there r gonna be a lot of skinny minnies! I wish I was thin...I would do anything to be thin!!!"
--Esther, 12
"Yes I used to always compare myself with others because I used to think I was fat when I was anorexic but I think that every one should be happy with the way they are because you are you and I wish I realized that sooner."
--Roxie
"Yeah. I compare myself to a little scrawny girl. Because I want to look like her. She is pretty and tiny. Everyone says I'm really skinny. But I'm like whatever...I mean the top half of me is skinny but my butt and my shins (not my thighs) are really fat! Everyone says that my shins just have lots of muscle since I'm tall. But I don't know what to think about my butt. I don't wanna tell my mom. And I compare myself to my older sister. I'm scared if I'm not gonna be as skinny as her...And lots of boys like her. And plus she is really pretty...What should I do? Do I just hope that I will be like her when I'm her age? Help me please."
--Jenny, 10
"Oh, yeah! I find myself thinking about it all the time!"
--Sarah, 12
"I was staring at the new girl's clothes and all the guys and girls whispering about her! I got no attention and I am the smartest girl in fifth grade! I love attention! She looked at me and laughed. She and my best friend hung out the whole day without me. Then, my teacher looked me in the face and said not to worry about other's things and only to worry about yours!"
--Snowflurry, 11
"YEA! Somehow I always come out to be the nicer one."
--Taylor, 10
"Yes, but not often. When I had a major crush on this hot boy, I would say would Chani love him too??? Does he fall head over hands for me????????"
--Zippy, 13
"Sometimes I compare myself to my friend Madison because she is in the advanced academic class at school and she actually made the school chorus even though I didn't get in. When I find myself doing that I say to myself that I am valuable we are all equal people."
--Lindsay, 11
"Hey! I have a lot of issues comparing myself to others because I'm small and their tall so, it's kinda sad. Because, I want to be tall but I can't change my life can I? It's just really frustrating because I'm just so sad because I want to be tall like the other kids. Well, that's my story."
--Krystal, 9
"Yeah, I do all the time. I always think I'm fat compared to other people at my school or I'm ugly or I need cover-up or something. I think it's really sad."
--Mizz Roxy 101, 10
"Yes I compare myself with others by weight."
--Jelisa, 10
"Have you ever wished you were either more pretty or more ordinary?"
--Abby, 13
"I compare myself with a girl that is a cheerleader, is popular, and isn't so smart. But, I can swim way better than her, and I get all As. So I remember I'm just as good as she is!"
--Kelly, 10
"Yeah, I have to do it to keep my reputation. In my life, it's all about looks."
--Addie, 12
"Yeah. I always to be unique, so I am constantly comparing myself to others, to make sure I'm waaaaaay different! : -)."
--Alex, 11
"I do because I think I'm fat. And I have a friend that's skinny and I compare myself to her all the time. I'm really jealous of her."
--Julie, 12
"That's kinda lame."
--Anonymous
"All the time. I compare looks, especially looks. I know I shouldn't but, I catch my self all the time..."
--Amber, 13
"OMG! I have always compared my self to other such as I wish I was as skinny as her or as pretty like her but yes I definitely compared myself to others."
--Haleigh, 13
"Yah but it's no big deal. Every 1 gets compared and compares themselves. It's natural. Just don't get carried away!"
--Anonymous, 12
"Well some times I compare myself to others for example I support +size people but my best friend has the perfect body. She even has boys begging her to go out with them!!!!!!!!!!"
--Bethany, 11
"No, because I know that my friends will not judge me or I will not judge anyone else. And I think that we should not be judged on how we look."
--Tiffany, 11
"Err, yeah. I guess. Cause like I worry about if I'm going to be too short or fat or whatever. I'm just that kind of person who ALWAYS compares themselves to others."
--June, 13
"I do but, not in a bad way. I'll say that a girl has nicer clothes than me but, I don't care."
--Tati, 12
"I do compare myself to other people. I think why can't I be prettier like these other girls or thinner..."
--Anna
"I do. I think about how different I am from them and makes me respect my life more."
--Jack, 13
"No! I think that I should be myself and I think other people should be themselves too."
--Joy, 9
Yeah, I do it all the time. I wonder if I should wear makeup like the other girls, try and hang out with them and compare how I rank on the 'popular' list compared to them.
I have low self esteem so I rate myself. Deep down inside I think it's stupid, but I do it anyways. I bet a lot of people do it, so I shouldn't feel that bad.
--Carolyn, 11
I had a dream that I was one of Hilary Duffs friends and we spent every day together. It was a big bummer when I woke up because I wanted it to be true but it wasnt! But then I realized that Hilary Duff probably wouldnt want to be my friend because I wasnt a celebrity. So I started to compare myself to other celebrities and that only made me feel worse about myself! I have been pretty sad ever since but once you realize that you are the best you and not the best someone else you can start to feel better!
--Jaclyn, 13
"Not really, but sometimes my friend does and I tell her not to care what other people have, think or say but she doesn't listen. She always minds what other people think instead of what she thinks. I KNOW that she can't help it but she shouldn't have to listen to a person that insults her. I'm not a snobby popular person and I am not saying all popular people are snobs, I'm just saying most."
--Shelby, 11
"I have compared myself to plenty of people and I'm glad I'm not like them. I'm just happy to be myself because I'm different."
--Reisa
"Yeah. I might compare myself to others because all my friends are better than me and they are all skinnier than me and that makes me jealous!! I hate being me. If I had one wish it would be to change me into another person that is way better!!"
--Stephanie, 12
"I always compare myself because I'm sort of a nerdy type of person."
--Becca, 12
"All the time. I compare myself to others by thinking that they have better clothes than me and how they look. It's hard not too and everyone dos it once and a while."
--Veronique, 11
"Yeah, but I think everyone does sometimes. Even if they don't mean to. I compare myself to people who are popular, skinny, smart, tall, and girls with boyfriends."
--Stephanie, 11
"I used to compare myself to my science teacher Ms. Stambaugh! I wanted to be just like her when I grew up! I even had a jean jumper just like the one she wore.
I even wanted lighter blonde hair just like hers!"
--Kristine
"I don't. I'm my own person. People might think I'm weird but I just ask them this: 'How boring would life be if we were all the same?'"
--Jenny, 12
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