|Dealing With Death: What About ME?
When we lose someone we love, it's natural to start thinking about, and being afraid of, our own death. Sometimes all it takes is a movie or book, or a tragic story in the news. We asked IML'ers if they ever think about their own death, and here's what some of you said:
"It does not scare me, but I have always wondered what it would feel like."
"It scares me, but then I notice that once I die, I will still be living in my family members' hearts."
"I am like real scared because you never know when it's coming."
"It doesn't really scare me because when God wants me, he will take me."
"I sometimes think about my death. I want it to not pain me at all. I want to go to heaven. I am okay with the thought of dying, but I just want my family not to feel so bad about it because I'm going to a better place."
"My own death doesn't scare me. I'm just happy with what I have."
"I get a little scared about talking about death. I'm glad that death is not anywhere near to me."
"I always think about death because it's one fact of life that you can't get rid of. It feels normal. I wonder who will cry after me when I die. Will anyone?"
The truth is, it's healthy to think and talk about your own death from time to time. It doesn't mean you're "morbid" or "jinxing yourself." What it does mean is that you're learning to accept that death is part of life. It also might help you focus on the good things in this world and count your blessings, especially when daily stress and other problems make it easy to lose sight of all that.
Sometimes it helps to read a good fiction book that explores the idea of death. For suggestions, print out our recommended book list. You can also watch a movie where a character's death is part of the story, and use it as a way to jumpstart a journal entry or spark a discussion with a parent or sibling. Here are some movie suggestions:
Remember: There's a big difference between occasionally thinking about death and being obsessed with it. If you find that you're overwhelmed with thoughts of dying, and it's keeping you from enjoying school, activities, and other parts of life, it's time to talk to a trusted adult about what you're feeling.