even madder. It's okay for a friend to get mad sometimes, but you don't want it to get to the point where your friend gets overwhelmed by the feelings.
Know when to back off. Sometimes when people are angry, they need time alone to cool down. In some cases, it might be smart to say something like: "Hey, I can see you're really mad. You need some time to chill, so I'll catch up with you later."
Don't encourage or ignore destructive behavior. If your friend starts talking about hurting someone, destroying things, or venting his anger in destructive ways, don't go along with it. Let your friend know that you don't want any part of this sort of behavior. If you feel your friend might hurt himself or others, talk to a teacher or parent immediately.
Let him or her know how you feel. When you talk to your friend or sibling about her problem with anger, it's easy to sound like you're accusing or attacking her, even though you don't mean to. A great way of expressing yourself in these situations is through
"I-Messages," which let you focus on how the anger affects YOU.
An I-Message has three parts:
1) I feel __________________
Be specific about your emotions. You can use more than
2) When you ______________
Give details of how your friend has acted or what he or she has done.
3) Because _______________
This is the hard one: the "why."
Here's an example of an I-Message:
"I feel uncomfortable when you scream and yell in anger, because it's no fun being around all that negative behavior."