|Eating Disorders: From The Mentors
At one time in my life, I refused to eat because I wanted to be skinny. Whenever anyone asked if I'd eaten, I insisted that I already had. That went on for a few weeks until my stomach started bothering me and I began fainting. My school nurse told me something about dieting and scolded me for starving myself. I began eating small meals and fortunately I was fine. There's a lot of pressure out there to look a certain way, but I found that the way to resist it is by having high self-esteem and feeling good about yourself no matter what. I know I'm not super-thin, but I'm okay with my size.
Not everyone is genetically made up to be one of those super skinny models or buffed guys on television. Some people were meant to be short, fat, skinny, tall, or green. So to expect yourself to be seven feet tall and 275 pounds is ridiculous if your mom and dad are barely five feet tall and 100 pounds combined. Try to be as comfortable with yourself as possible, because maybe that guy on television has a perfectly cut out "six-pack," but there's probably something that you're good at and he isn't.
Already four of my best friends have gone through their own kinds of eating problems, either to control their lives, lose weight, make a statement to the people around them, or get guys to notice them. I helped them by trying to talk to them and understand what they were going through. I wanted to know why they were hurting their bodies. After I talked to them, I talked to my mom and asked her for advice. In two instances, I told my friend that I was going to talk to her parents, and I did. I thought they needed to be aware of what was going on with their daughters, if they didn't know already. It's always important to talk to an adult when you feel like a friend is hurting his/herself. All of my friends are fine now, and they're very healthy and happy! It was a lot for them to go through, but they're much stronger and confident having gotten through their disorder. Don't ever feel pressure from the media to be super-thin or super-buff. People in the media who project that image aren't necessarily happy. In fact, they probably torture themselves by trying to keep their "perfect body type." You're much better off loving yourself the way you are.
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