FORGIVE AND FORGET (Episode
When Clifford forgets a play date, Cleo gets really upset. After all,
she would never do that to a friend. Cleo won't even accept Clifford's
apologies. T-bone points out to Cleo that she may be the one who isn't
being a good friend. After all, Clifford did apologizeand a good friend
would never hold a grudge. Cleo learns that good friends forgive (and
Big Idea: Be a Good Friend
Like apologizing, forgiving is a challenging task for anyone at
any age. Talking about ways to forgive and forget can lead to discussions
- life skills
- critical thinking and problem-solving
of Play Dates
Children develop social relationships in many contexts. Give the child
more opportunities to experience friendship and playing in various settings
by setting up play dates with just one or two or other friends. Invite
one or two children from school, church, or the park over to your house
to play for a couple of hours. Provide a snack halfway through their
playtime and encourage the child to share space, toys, and belongings
with their playmates. Allowing the child the opportunity to play in
a variety of settings with a variety of children will ensure that he
or she will find friendships easier to make and maintain in the future.
To forgive and forget is difficult at any age. Have children role-play
the scene between Cleo, Clifford, and T-Bone. Afterwards, ask
- How would you feel if you had forgotten the play date, as Clifford
- Would you accept Clifford's apologies if you were Cleo?
- It was fortunate that T-Bone's good sense and reasoning convinced
Cleo that their friendship was too strong to lose over this incident.
How would you feel if a friend forgot a play date?
Language of Forgiveness
Sometimes children need practice expressing themselves when they want
to ask for forgiveness. Saying "I'm sorry" is sometimes not enough.
When conflicts arise, help the child understand that asking to be forgiven
is a tough task. Saying "I'm sorry" with grace and sincerity is a skill
that can be modeled by adults, as well.