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How to Cope

Using advice and role-play, help guide your children through an exploration of how to handle scary situations, focusing on what happens when you are lost.


Gather paper and markers.

Share stories

Have your children generate a list of fears, worries, or scary situations, such as getting lost in a store or mall, nightmares, fire drills, and so on. Discuss the different words we use to describe our feelings when we think about or have these experiences: worried, scared, upset, afraid, nervous, anxious. Being able to label their feelings can help children better express themselves.

You may also want to talk about the differences between an immediate fear reaction, such as when someone yells, "Boo!" suddenly and feelings of fear that stay after an event or situation occurs. Reassure children that there are ways that we can learn to cope with our fears.

Choose one or two items and work together to create a "How to Cope" list. Ask children to provide suggestions, such as safety tips or advice they've learned. Good guidelines could include:

Tell a tale

Use getting lost to model behaviors and strategies you've discussed. Tell or read a story about someone being lost and upset, such as Lost! by David McPhail or Sheila Rae the Brave by Kevin Henkes. (If you don't have a book to use, refer to an experience you've had or have heard about, or make one up.) Stop the story to ask your children what they might do in the same circumstance. How could they use the safety tips you've discussed? What advice would they offer the character in the story? Explore some ways to handle the situation, and then share the end of the story.


After the story, have your children role-play the character's situation. One person can play the character who is lost, while another can play someone who can help.

Talk about it

Explain to your children that being lost can be very frightening, but that it will be easier to handle if they know what to do.

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